I have an unusual question that bounces around in the walls of my brain every once in a while, and it’s this, “What do I want my children to remember me for when they’re grown?”

It may seem silly to you, but it is a query I’ve grown to respect in my head because of the balance it can bring to my days…someday, in the not-so-distant future, my children will be adults.  Someday in the not-so-distant future your children will be adults too.  It’s true.  (I know it’s hard to believe when diapers and drool make up the majority of your day, but I’m far enough along now to realize how soon it comes around the corner.)

Although we don’t want these kinds of questions to stir up fear in us, we can allow them to gently guide our behavior.

Do you wonder how we can guide our behavior with a question?

Well, I look at it this way…every day we wake up with new challenges to face and yet no way to predict what they will look like.  Maybe when we lift our sleepy heads off the pillow we feel thrilled to be starting a fresh, new day of mothering.  BUT, maybe there are mornings when our heads feel glued to the fabric of our pillowcases and our feet feel so heavy we are sure they will never leave the bed, and our hearts, oh they just ache from the weariness that fills us and we can’t begin to imagine doing ANYTHING well today…well, those are the days I let a good question guide my actions. [Read more...]