“Friendship is born at the moment when one person says to another “What! You too? I thought I was the only one. ” CS Lewis
This past Monday, I dropped by my dear sweet Sally’s house to welcome her home and to bring her a little bunch of flowers to let her know how much she was missed and that I am so glad that she was home. When I walked in, Brandee, (one of our nine circle of friends here in Colorado that has been helping Sally as her assistant) was there and so we all decided to have a little impromptu tea party and to talk about how we all felt about the Momheart conferences this year and ideas for new ways to minister to Moms. We were in the middle of all of the discussion when Sally noticed that I looked a bit sad and disheartened. She asked me how I have been doing with all of the recent stresses in my life. She could tell the answer was not good and promptly walked over and put her arms around me and said “You poor thing. You have been bearing so much!!” Then Brandee scooted over on the couch and put her arms around me as well. I felt my bottom lip start to quiver and the tears fell. After a while of my talking and counseling, my dear sisters prayed for me.
Oh, the value of Christian friendship!!
That’s true friendship! Having someone that knows you enough to notice when you are downhearted, counsel you and most of all pray for you.
“Two people are better off than one because they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.” Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
What would I do without my Christian friends? Here in Colorado, we have a group of nine of us that get together regularly, have dinners, watch movies, travel together, pray for one another and in the Summer we have a Bible study. Each of us are leaders in some way or another, teach or help in Momheart groups and are Sally’s friends that help with Momheart conferences and intensives. But most of all what we do together is have fun and encourage each other to be the best wives, Mamas and women of God that we can possibly be.
We are committed to each other through thick and thin.
We don’t gossip about each other. Nobody bashes their husbands and kids. We all do our best to help the other ones to be their best at all God has called us to do. We all encourage each other to love God more.
The Momheart Leadership Intensives were born because we all wanted to bring women and leaders to Colorado to minister to them as a team of friends. We all work together.
We get on each others nerves sometimes, have had a few arguements and misunderstandings, our kids have had issues with each other but we all know that we are stuck with each other and are committed to staying friends.
So, what do you do if you don’t have any friends?
-Ask God to bring you a friend.
-Try to be the best friend that you can be to the people that are in your life- be the friend that you have always wanted.
-Send a note to someone telling them something that you admire about them or a note of encouragement.
-Become a Momheart leader- get one of Sally’s books, pray for God to bring a couple of ladies, read the chapters and answer the questions at the back of the chapters. Have a snack and pray for each other.
God will bring you a friend and a group. He loves to answer our prayers. He wants us to have friends so trust Him to bring you one to walk in this journey as a mom along side you.
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What a sweet post, Deb! I like what you said about being committed to each other, despite bumps along the way. And about being the best friend you can be to those that are in your life. I’ve had seasons of lots of close friends nearby and seasons of only one or two, but God has always provided.
Thanks Jenn! It is so important to always forgive each other and to stay together- no matter what!
It’s worth it!
xxoo
Couldn’t do the life God has called me to without my sweet friends. And because they love God in front of me, I am able to keep loving God. Love you sweet Deb.
Thanks sweet Sally!! Where would I be without you?? You are my forever friend. When we get to heaven I am going to ask God if we can have our houses be 5 minutes away from each other there too.
Love you!!
This is wonderful
I long to have a friend group like this! Reading “Desperate”, I have prayed God would give me the gift of friendship as we have just moved.
I have a question: I’m a young pastor’s wife and have been told I need to be everyone’s friend and not have obvious “favorites”. Are there any more experienced pastor’s wives that can speak to this? I know I can’t be everyone’s friend but if that leaves me being no one’s friend that doesn’t seem a Biblical model either. Any wisdom would be so appreciated. Thank you!
Hi Hannah,
Thanks for commenting. I am not a pastors wife, but I am in ministry so to speak. I think that you need some close friends that support you and that you can trust. You can be nice and friendly to everyone, but I really think that you need a close group of people that can be there for you, pray for you and help you.
Deb
You ladies are precious! Deb your words are timely and so real {as usual}.
The Mom Heart Conference this year was a wonderful opportunity to connect with my friends and sweet daughter too.
Sending my love from Texas. xoxo
Debi
Hi Debi!
You are so precious yourself!!! I loved seeing you in Texas!!
Hope to see you soon!!
xxoo Deb
Sweet Deb -
Loved your post, love being your friend even more!
Sweet Brandee!
I LOVE being your friend too